Do Your Job, Parents! Make Sacrifices, Not Excuses.

Here is the article from the Macon Telegragh that has led to this post. It amazes me that people will consciously decide to download a kid, carry that kid for 9 months (which gives them about 270 days to consider the future), then claim they can't provide for that little "tricycle engine" because of expenses. Anyway, I have posted the link below and "copied and pasted" the text below the link.




FINDING GOOD DAYCARE A TOUGH TASK FOR PARENTS
By Kandace Raymond Pritchett - Special to The Telegraph Buzz up!

Before motherhood I never imagined how challenging, stressful and scary it would be to find dependable day care for my child. I never dreamed most of my 8-10 hour workdays would be filled with worries for my child’s well-being.

For 2 1/2 years I’ve been trying to find the perfect place for my child to learn, grow and be loved. Now, I wonder if such a place exists.

My husband and I have been burned by bad nannies. Hesitant, but stuck with no alternatives, we turned to day care. As we researched facilities we became frustrated. It seemed the places where teachers seemed to genuinely care for the kids, spoke intelligently and provided a clean environment were limited or only offered half-day programs.

Our list of options quickly narrowed. We sucked it up and had to settle. The need for health care and two salaries eliminated our option for me to be a stay-at-home mom.

At our current day care, I caught a teacher mistreating my toddler on tape. Thank God my motherly instinct told me to watch the videotape from the monitor that day. She was “written up” not fired.

My daughter spends more time with her day care teachers than with us. My ability to trust others, who have a hand in raising her the way we see fit, is disappearing. Ideally, my daughter would spend the majority of her day learning, exploring and socializing; after all, experts say a child’s brain is fully formed by the time he or she is 5 to 6-years-old. Are my expectations too high?

I’m still desperate to find that perfect place.

Kandace Raymond Pritchett is a resident of Forsyth, GA


Kandace, what DID you imagine BEFORE motherhood? Did you imagine that you would have place to drop your kid off everyday for FREE? Did you imagine you would have folks lining up at your door each morning, credentials in hand, to sit, play and read with your child each day...out of the goodness of their heart?

Your statement that you never dreamed your 8-10 hour days would be filled with worries of your child, suggest you had 8-10 hour days PRIOR to bringing life into this world. So, you knew your schedule. You knew your options. YET, you decided to bring this helpless little girl into this world without a plan? REALLY?!

Has it occurred to you that HOME may be the perfect place for your child to learn, grow and be loved? It is nobodys responsibility, morally or lawfully, to love your child. It is yours. Unfortunately for your child, that perfect place may not exist, even at home, because you don't have the desire to be there or the desire to do what it takes to be there.

If you can afford a nannie, you can afford to cut your lifestyle. It may mean sacrifices. Smaller home, less eating out, one car, etc. My point is you are spitting in the face of the answer to your question.

You claim you and hubby did reeeeesearch on kid kennels and found the "good" ones were limited or only offered half-day programs. Limited to or by what? How much they were willing to provide the service for? Only offered "half-day" programs? Hey, it's business. Nobody watches other people's kids for fun. They do it for a profit and if there it a profit in watching kids all day, someone is doing it. Again, it comes down to whether you and your husband are willing to pay for that service.

Your options have never narrowed. You have always had the same number of options. You may have chosen not to entertain some of those options, but that was your choice.

THEN. THEN!...you claim to "sucking it up", like you did an honorable thing. That phrase usually is used when someone does something admirable, strong or brave. It is usually used when someone trudges on through hard times or picks themselves up from a tragic event and moves forward. THEY SUCK IT UP. You didn't suck anything up. You copped out! To top that off, you blame it on health care and needing two incomes. (sound the Gong now) Wrong!

We could discuss the health care if you'd like, but that would mean auditing your household income and budget, which I doubt you'd be willing to produce. But if your salaries don't allow for one of you to be at home, it's because you have CHOSEN not to cut your lifestyle. Again, stop ordering pizzas, cut the cable, get rid of car payments, become a true home ECONOMIST, have hubby get a second job, have a yard sale, stop buying labels, turn lights off when not in use, stop wasting money, etc.

You told us that you had evidence of you child being mistreated. Sure, mistreatment is subjective and your opinion may differ than others, but the fact remains that YOU believed it was mistreatment. Yet, you continue to send your child into what you believe may be a harmful enviornment? Dude, you need your head examined! Are you watching the videotape everyday now? Every minute of it? If you have time to do that, you have time to be at home.

It is a sad implied statement that you make that your toddler knows or has bonded with others more so than you and your husband. That has to be the case if daughter is spending more time with others than with her parents, right?

And your ideal situation does not even include YOU or your husband. Your ideal situation still involves your little girl be boarded by stangers.

No, your expectations are not too high. You can find exactly what your looking for...someone else to be your little girl's parents. It is called adoption.